Recharge

In the Ontario International Airport in California they have podiums at which to plug in and charge devices while sitting on stools or standing next to the podium.

I had plugged in my computer, plugged my phone into the computer and began a personal hotspot and gone to work. I had been hammering away at projects for two plus hours hardly looking up when Betty took the seat beside me.

She was elegant. Colored bleached smartly cut short hair, beautifully done, rings on many fingers, good nail polish, make up, stylish outfit. She had coral-colored glasses and a large red leather purse, which she leveraged down in front of her stool and her second large green paper handled sack next to it with what looked like a gift in it.

She clambered onto the stool and deposited two small boxes onto the counter from the electronics tech store. As she did this I realized that I was kind of flowing over into her space and had plugged my computer into what technically was her outlet. Seeing this I said —

“Oh look I’m plugged into your outlet!”

“Well it’s time to move over,” she quipped.

We both laughed.

I pulled out my ear plugs. She was wrestling with her boxes.

“Do you think I have time to get this phone charged some before my departure? You going to Las Vegas?” She asked, jamming her pink finger nails under the tape at the end of the box.

“No Portland,” I responded to her second question, then added: “Yes for certain. You could get some juice in there before you board.”

She wrestled more with the boxes. “I know I paid triple what I could have spent on amazon!” She said, still working on opening the first box.

“These packaging things! Those Chinese think of all the most difficult stuff.”

“Well it is hard to get into them for certain. Perhaps it thwarts shoplifting. But I’m imagining having to explain why this woman began screaming and shouting while trying to open a package next to me.”

She paused, looked up, sighed and laughed.

Finally she got the first box opened. Pulled out the plug and plugged it into the outlet then diligently worked and finally opened the second box, pulling out a pink cord to charge her phone in its pink and gold case.

She had to remove part of the case to make the connection and got it charging.

It was as if she’d conquered Everest with the amount of effort it took!

“Can you help me take it off power mode?” She asked me.

“Sure.”

I directed her to settings and she managed to get that switched off.

“You’re heading to Las Vegas?” I asked.

“No, Reno. Southwest doesn’t have a nonstop flight so I have to travel through Phoenix, Las Vegas or somewhere else to get there. I could take JetBlue from Long Beach airport — that’s a nonstop. But then I would have to make my way from Riverside all the way out there. And that’s a trek.”

“What is that drive about 2 hours for you?”

“Yes.” She responded.

“Where are you headed?” She returned.

What’s the most obvious question to ask while traveling?

“Portland.” I responded.

“Oh,” she began, interested, “Do they still have all the homeless around? Is it a Sanctuary City? I visited there a couple of years back. I have a friend there. I really liked the place.”

“Yes we do have the homeless around,” I answered. “They are many places. I think we might be a sanctuary city but that’s more to do with immigration.”

There are many hurting people.

“That’s like San Francisco. It’s nothing like it used to be to visit. They’ve ruined it, I say.”

It seems that there’s a curious group ‘They’ who are often at fault in people’s worldview. How seldom do I hear someone own the problem. These are my neighbors, after all.

“Really?” I said. “I haven’t been to San Francisco for years. At my church we work to help folk and have a good relationship with many of those who are or have been homeless in our communities helping them transition from houseless to having homes.”

She wasn’t listening, but said, “They just are drug addicted. They are messes and want to stay there.”

“Some might, but we work with many who desire to get into affordable housing.” I countered.

Again I felt like she wasn’t quite listening.

“Yes, too many extra people. And all those people,” she almost spit that word “people,” as if it was not quite accurate, “coming over from Tiajuana and Yuma! Just come in and get on welfare!” She was disgusted.

I didn’t know what to say. Such anger. And I understand anger. There is an infrastructure issue in immigration and sometimes with homelessness. But still we are talking about people — real, unique, hurting, albeit needy people. Humans like me and you with families and dreams. But often in such discussions this reality is bypassed and people are lessened.

There’s that dangerous line we can cross whenever we begin to dehumanize anyone, Brené Brown writes eloquently on that in her great book “Braving the Wilderness.”. Jesus had lots to say as well.

“Well we do have tough issues there.” I offered.

“Are you a Christian?” She asked.

“Yes” I said, unsure where this was heading, “I’m a follower of Jesus.”

“Well, I’m a half-hearted girl,” she said, with an embarrassed chuckle, “with all kinds of things. I was a half-hearted Catholic. And raised my son intermittently in the church. But then he went and got born again,” the same tone in her voice as when she had spat out the word ‘people’ previously, “and he’s always shoving Bible verses at me and I feel like I’ve lost my son.” Her voice caught slightly in her throat at this thought. “And I just don’t want to relate to the Bible thumper. I miss him.”

Ah. Now I saw it. Pain. Usually where there is hate, racism, anger, “us vs them” attitudes, there is also deep pain. And such pain is everywhere.

I leaned in as she continued. She was on a roll and needed to share her pain.

“And then his wife became a Jehovah’s Witness!” The words said volumes. Disbelief. Anger. Hurt.

“How on earth is that going to work?” I asked, thinking of the Bible-thumping son.

“I don’t know! Aren’t they a cult? They don’t believe in Jesus, do they?”

I’m thinking how interesting and ironic that she doesn’t seem to have much connection with Jesus herself, saying she’s a half-hearted Catholic, so between her and the daughter-in-law I was not certain who had less of a faith. Yet here was her question.

“Yes,” I answer the question, “they view Jesus as less than God, speaking him as ‘a god.’ So we would differ there.”

That sufficed.

She continued, “And she was in the hospital and needed a blood transfusion and had she had it,” she let out a huge sigh, “would have been out of the hospital in a few days. But she refused the transfusion so they had to keep her in longer and then it has been over a month of weakness while her body rebuilds the blood.”

She sounded incensed. I knew there was more, so waited.

“And she’s always criticizing my son. She always says he’s wrong and tells me and I just cannot do this. I am going to stay in their house and have to hear her complaints all the time.”

“This sounds immensely difficult,” I said, honestly.

“It’s so hard. And I need advice. What should I do?”

At this point I was marveling at this random appointment. “Jesus, how do you arrange these meetings?” I mean, seriously, I was working in this airport a thousand miles from home, and have this encounter with this stranger now speaking with me as if I was her friend.

How many people are carrying this much pain all around us daily, Lord?

How many need someone to speak with but don’t find them, and they make headlines because of really bad choices… There have been 307 mass shootings in the US as of the 315th day of this year. Nearly one really bad decision, rooted in deep pain, per day.

“Are you a woman of prayer?” I ask.

She didn’t hear me, saying,

“A what?”

“Do you pray?” I asked again.

“Well I’m not very good at that.”

“Ok. How old is your son?”

I’m unclear on how old this woman is. I could imagine we are nearly the same age so perhaps this son is in his 30s?

“Oh,” she says, “he’s 50 and his wife is in her late 40s”

“Oh my goodness.” I said, since she and he had aged 20 years, “He’s a full-fledged adult. I had pegged you in your fifties!”

“You’re my new best friend,” she laughed. “I’m seventy-five.”

“Wow,” I marvel, honestly. “Good job.”

“So at his age you first need to remind yourself you are not there to change him. Indeed, you cannot change him, and cannot make decisions for him. And you obviously cannot change her.”

“Oh but what am I to do?” She lamented.

“Well,” I said slowly, “there’s love.”

This was not what she expected.

“You can be there to love. To love you might do well to reacquaint yourself with the fact that Jesus really loves you. He loves you enough to set up this appointment with me In this random airport to hear you. He loves you enough to remind you of this and wants to know you better. So talk to him, Betty. Talk to Jesus and let him in.”

She looked at me with a deep, hopeful look. It was like my words had plugged her into a power source. Just like her phone, she was being recharged.

“Then your son,” I continued, “just be there for him. He is most likely in a tough situation and it’s perhaps hard for him as well. Could you just be there and listen to him. Be curious about him?”

“I think I could. But what with her? She comes at me. And I think I’ll need duct tape on my mouth to not come at her.”

“Well that’s an option. But boundaries are good things. You can say ‘I cannot have you speak to me in this manner. Please stop.” If she doesn’t, you might need to say, “I’m leaving the room now and when I come back I’d like you to cease this manner of speaking.”

Tears brimmed her eyes as I said “I’m so sorry for this hard time.”

“Could I pray for you before you board?”

They were boarding the plane’s first group at that point. She was traveling on Southwest which gives the boarding groups a letter and a number. “I think mine is B52,” she had quipped.

“Oh so you are really going to fly in!” I had responded, referring to the old B52 aircraft.

To my question about prayer she said

“Yes, please.”

I took her hands saying “What is your son’s name?”

“Darren.”

I prayed with her for Darren and his wife, this difficult situation, and mostly prayed for Betty to know and experience Jesus and his immense love for her.

As I ended the prayer she thanked me profusely, wiping away the tears from her eyes, unplugged her phone, wrapped up all the cords dropped them and her phone into her red leather purse and grabbed both that and the handles of the green sack and left for the boarding line.

This is the week when many families gather for thanksgiving and there is not a gathering that does not involve some level of challenging relationships.

May you also get a recharge in your relationship with Jesus to strengthen you for those gatherings. And May you know that no matter the stress in conversations around your table, it is possible to love those around you with the tough, real love of Jesus who loved you enough to make that love a possibility. Remember you’re immensely loved. Be recharged. Plug into Jesus.

About Camino Way 2016 Shimer

On August 22, 1981 I married this wonderful woman, Karen, who has consistently blessed and changed my life and days. We are still in love, all the more with the years. We have four daughters, two sons by marriage, and three delightful, wonderful grandchildren. So, that makes me a husband, father, and grandfather all in those sentences. But mostly just a guy who loves my family. Today Karen and I planted beautiful plants in numerous pots. She had come home with the plants and that experience reminded me how much I enjoy simple things and simple pleasures -- like digging in dirt to plant a flower, like sunlight through glass on a spring day, like clean windows -- just washed ours today -- like a melody that won't escape from my heart. I've been a local church pastor for 30 years as of this June, a number that staggers me for I feel about that age on the inside, but clearly that's not the case. Back in 1988 I graduated from Asbury Theological Seminary with an Mdiv-- a time of schooling that has been a foundation for years of ministry. But it is mostly in the building upon that foundation, that has most changed my life. I love people, love seeing Jesus work in people's lives. One of my favorite joys is to pray with someone through some horrible place of memory and see Jesus walk right into their memory world, and turn on the lights in a way that sets their soul free and brings healing. There's nothing like this privilege and I have been there to watch it happen more times than I can count. Between 4 and 7 the associate pastor of my family's congregation sexually abused me, first grooming me, then repeatedly violating my young self. This marked my life. It changed my bearings. It ripped at my faith. It wounded my image of what it meant to be a little boy, and later a man. It has been a point from which I have been in the process of healing for many years now. I'm a survivor, but more than that, I am one who lives beyond what was done. For in the middle of all that stuff, Jesus was calling me, speaking to me, bidding me to follow him to bring change to people's lives within the realm of the very office that was used to harm me. Only Jesus can make light from darkness, hope from despair, and healing from brokenness. I love Jesus. He really is alive, no matter what others may believe. And his life, his presence, his words into my world, his healing power have continued to be the foundation point of what it means to experience life to the fullest. I love writing. I don't really know why on that score for really writing has never been a central tool in my world, nor has it come easily. But I love seeing how words released heal. And I love the way words can connect me to other people's worlds. So, that's why I started blogging. It began because I was planning to blog on a weekly basis when I went to walk the Camino de Santiago last fall. And in order to be able to blog while walking, I knew I had to begin to practice blogging before I was in another country. A friend told me that. Friends are good to help us find ways to live more authentically into our daily lives! So, I started. But what I have discovered is there is something powerful about sharing the story of life with others. So, I have continued. And I love the connections being built through those words. In 2011 I experienced my first seminar in Simply the Story, a bible story telling method that involves those listening in discussion and I decided then -- "this is what I plan to do when I retire." But really-- "why wait until then?" -- so I use this method while I continue pastoring. It sets people free and allows the Word to take root in ways that preaching never has. So again and again I am practicing asking questions and that is good practice for me, because I am frequently better at "telling" than "asking." This has been such a freeing gift. I love training others in this skill. So, a storyteller would certainly be true of me too. Years ago I discovered my mission in life is "the joyful transformation of people's lives through the person of Jesus Christ." And that continues to be where I find my home base, in joy. Where there is joy, I find, there is Jesus, and there is the possibility of transformation. Of course Jesus is in places where there is no joy as well, and once He is there, the place kind of changes because of Him. I love that.
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2 Responses to Recharge

  1. Thank you for the reminder to plug into Jesus. I lost my faith after so many harrowing problems. I no longer go to church but in a way still aware of God’s power and trying to find my way back to Him

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    • Camino Way 2016 Shimer says:

      Dear Jennifer! Thanks for this vulnerability. I’ll be holding you in prayer. Harrowing problems! I understand tough journeys. Remember Jesus is passionately pursuing you. Sometimes we only need to turn around. Grace to you and praying you can get reconnected. Psalm 40:1-3.

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